Self-esteem and confidence are blanket terms that refer to two aspects of someone’s personality: 1) how much they believe themselves to be worthy of love, respect, and other good things, 2) how willing they are to take actions that are necessary to gain and maintain such good things.

For example, in a romantic relationship, someone with high self-esteem and confidence would know that they deserve love, respect, and intimacy from their partner. If at some point they weren’t receiving those things, they would ask for what they needed. If their needs still weren’t being met, they would leave the relationship to find something that better met their needs. Someone with low self-esteem, by contrast, may not believe that they are worthy of even being in a relationship in the first place. If they do find themselves in a relationship, they will likely feel undeserving of their partner’s love, respect, and intimacy. They will also tend to accept unsatisfying and sometimes abusive behaviour from their partners, staying in relationships out of a belief that they couldn’t find anything better.

Similar illustrations could be given for careers, friendships, physical health, and many other areas of life.

Most people with low confidence and low self-esteem believe they were just born like that, as if feeling like shit were just a natural part of their personality. The good news is, that’s not true. Counselling is extremely effective at helping people to increase their confidence and self-esteem. In counselling, you’ll first learn skills and self-care habits that develop your sense of worthiness. Second, you’ll work through unresolved shame, trauma, and other past issues that weigh on you and prevent you from living like a boss.

Ready to improve your self-esteem and confidence? Call, text, or email John today at 226-791-5606 or john@transformationcounselling.com to book a session or a free consultation.